“The connections we make in the course of a life – maybe that’s what heaven is.”

It is an offering of your heart/story/perspective to another person and an opening up to catch the other person’s in return.

This is a tough question to answer. It’s a phrase I’ve used for years now to describe conversations I have had where, as I walked away, my mind continues to buzz with excitement, questions, and appreciation. Lifechats are about anything and everything. About your own life. About another’s. About what makes us get up in the morning. About our favorite breakfast food. About why we have schedules and whether they actually make us more efficient or just more stressed. About how sometimes turning your phone off is the greatest feeling in the world. About the benefit of studying abroad. About how it feels to return home. What is home? Where do you call home?

You get it.

They are conversations that expand your mind while shrinking your universe to that exact moment with the other person. They aren’t always mind blowing but they are always thought provoking. They are both about opening up and leaning in to listen closely.

 

I’m going to borrow a few quotes to help you get an understanding of what I mean:

 

“I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk. About love, about life, about anything, about everything. To sit under the moon with all the time in the world, the full-speed train that is our lives slowing to a crawl. Bound by no obligations, barred by no human limitations. To speak without regret or fear of consequence. To talk for hours and about what’s really important in life.”

 

“Develop an interest in life as you see it; the people, things, literature, music…the world is so rich, simply throbbing with rich treasures, beautiful souls and interesting people. Forget yourself.” ― Henry Miller

 

 “Own only what you can always carry with you: know languages, know countries, know people. Let your memory be your travel bag. Use your memory! Use your memory! It is those bitter seeds alone which might sprout and grow someday. Look around you – there are people around you. Maybe you will remember one of them all your life and later eat your heart out because you didn’t make use of the opportunity to ask him questions. And the less you talk, the more you’ll hear.”-Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

“There isn’t anyone you couldn’t love once you’ve heard their story.” ― Mary Lou Kownacki

 

“The connections we make in the course of a life–maybe that’s what heaven is.” ― Fred Rogers

 

 

“Sweet, crazy conversations full of half sentences, daydreams and misunderstandings more thrilling than understanding could ever be.” — Toni Morrison

 

“We waste so much energy trying to cover up who we are when beneath every attitude is the want to be loved, and beneath every anger is a wound to be healed and beneath every sadness is the fear that there will not be enough time. When we hesitate in being direct, we unknowingly slip something on, some added layer of protction that keeps us from feeling the world, and often that thin covering is the beginning of a loneliness which, if not put down, diminishes our chances of joy. It’s like wearing gloves every time we touch something, and then, forgetting we chose to put them on, we complain that nothing feels quite real. Our challenge each day is not to get dressed to face the world but to unglove ourselves so that the doorknob feels cold and the car handle feels wet and the kiss goodbye feels like the lips of another being, soft and unrepeatable.” ― Mark Nepo

“Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others…” — Timothy Leary